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As to him pulling away for a week or so, well that's not uncommon for an aspie.
It is fair for you though, to ask him to help you understand what he wants you to do during those times.
Not really understanding, I assumed there was something about me that turned him off -- so I asked for feedback. Life is full of wonderful things and, as much as I would like to include him in my life, I won't be devastated if that's not a mutual sentiment. I have felt as though it's important to just be patient and not aggressive.
He said there was nothing wrong -- and that he "digs" me. It doesn't seem as though he favors aggressiveness.
Sometimes, aspies can workout fair compromises so that the needs/feelings of both parties are met and dealt with.I wanted to wilt -- but with God on my side, I fought against taking it personally. So, I've been content to let him initiate phone conversations, etc. There's actually a lot of good information here and I agree that cheating is not a symptom of AS.(I'll admit -- I guess it feels "safe" to me, too -- but I just don't want to be overbearing. I think it can be a byproduct though because aspies are people just like anyone else in that they suffer from fears of abandonment, rejection...other negative responses.We've become a little closer, but then he told me that he has AS, and when I asked him what it was he sent me a link to wikipedia. Or was he just an ass who happened to have AS and make a bad name for the syndrome? Whether you can get a suitable relationship going depends on a lot of things, and a lot of this has to do with where you score on patience, tolerance, clear thinking, knowledge, independence, strong self-confidence and adaptability. Whether a person cheats depends on a lot of things and it is just not logical to say that because a person with one characteristic (in this case Asperger's) has done something (in this case cheating), all people with that characteristic might do it. It's like saying all dogs have a high probability of biting because one bit your friend. For example, if you just started dating this guy, give the relationship time to develop.When I told my friends about AS my friend told me the story of her ex, who was also an aspie. I've talked to my guy about this and he avoids the topic, I'm not sure if this is because he's guilty or maybe not understanding the way I'm bringing it up. As an Asperger person, he needs his time to himself.
And an Asperger partner will sure teach you that lesson. Maybe it is because I just answered your new topic re the same guy. You could try bargaining: you do this and I'll do this. Or you can give up trying to get what you want FROM HIM. He might actually appreciate this if you are giving him a bad time. If you would like to send me a message or add me as a friend you can.